I suppose it’s traditional in the last week of a calendar year to reflect on the year behind and predict for the year ahead. I’m certainly not immune to that impulse, nor am I immune to the predictable impulse to make promises to myself on how to improve the next year. Maybe we constantly think that the previous year’s sucktastic aspects were somehow our fault, and if we just change our attitude (or latitude), those problems won’t come back.
Instead of trying to come up with something on my own that I could implement as a resolution for 2018, I put the question to my Facebook feed. My Facebook friends – some of whom I’ve known for many years & some I’ve never met in person – chimed in with some suggestions. Here they are, with some commentary. At the bottom will be my actual resolution(s) that I thought up on my own.
- Don’t make resolutions. I get this – don’t set yourself up for failure & you’ll have nothing to feel bad about, right? As a thought experiment, however, resolutions can be fun and educational. (Learning about yourself counts as educational, right?)
- Manufacture jenkem in my basement. I had to look up what jenkem is, and I will not be fermenting human waste inside the house – or anywhere else, for that matter.
- Throat punch more people. While probably morally satisfying, throat-punching people could lead to prison time. Not interested.
- Kick a dog a day. Funny, sure, but not practical. Where I live in semi-rural suburban Richmond, Virginia, kicking somebody’s dog could get you shot. Plus I like dogs. Other people’s dogs. My daughter wants to get a dog in the worst way, but I know how much work it is to take care of a dog and I’m not ready to commit to that yet.
This one-word suggestion was probably my favorite. I’ve seen The Big Lebowsky just once, and honestly, while I thought it was funny, it didn’t resonate with me in the same way it has for many of its fans. My favorite scene was the beach funeral. So, so funny!
At any rate, abide is somewhat of a mantra for the movie’s main character, and it can in many ways be seen as the central tenet of Buddhism as well. No – wait for it – and trust me. Buddhist philosophy centers around the interconnectedness of all beings and all things. Enlightenment comes from glimpses of the true nature of this interconnectedness. We achieve enlightenment by opening our minds to the true nature of the world around us … and to do that, we must abide.
Most of the suggestions I received I can subordinate under abide, and so I have.
- Don’t be a dick and Be kind. Google’s mantra used to be don’t be evil. They’ve moved away from that, but in general I think don’t be a dick is a great suggestion. The world would be a better place if fewer of us acted more in the interests of positivity instead of selfishness, and selfishness is the root cause of being a dick. Being kind is the polar opposite of being a dick, so these two suggestions work together. I love these suggestions, and I do hereby resolve to do my best not to be a dick (and therefore be more kind) in 2018.
- Do something nice for someone I don’t know and Pay someone a compliment each day. Two more complimentary suggestions, and both will take me out of my comfort zone. I don’t consider myself a particularly nice person – meaning that I don’t feel I go out of my way to make other people’s lives better in meaningful ways. My family, sure. My closest circle of friends, sure. My coworkers, sometimes (when it benefits the company). In general, however, I am going to struggle with this, but I will try!
- Add value to the space & lives around me and Find wonder, joy & beauty in the world. These were suggestions that struck me deeply and made me sit back and think a bit. The person the former came from has had a hard couple of years when it comes to family, with both unexpected gains and unexpected losses. Their family has had to move a few times in the past few years, something that can be quite stressful on kids. That they took this tack – adding value – is abstract enough to encompass many things, and I think that makes it easier to achieve. Find wonder, joy & beauty is something I will definitely have to work on, but I love the sentiment behind it. We read and experience negativity on such a large scale that it’s difficult to find the good things in life. I will try to see the positive.
- Learn & do new things and Think more about being than doing. Another great pair of suggestions. When we stop learning, we stop growing. When we focus more on the experience of something than what it does for us, we harm our own growth. While I won’t be jumping out of airplanes, I think it would be fun and educational to try things in 2018 that I’ve never tried before.
- Have fun. Duh, right? We often don’t think about life in this fashion, however, so getting a reminder from a friend to have fun is refreshing. I do a number of things that should be fun, but the fun in them is often lost or missed because I’m focused on other things. I need to work on that.
- Wear great socks. I have terrible fashion sense, even for a fat guy. I should work on that.
- Use fewer plastic items. This is a fantastic – and concrete – suggestion. Plastic comes from petroleum, and anything I can do to reduce the use of petroleum products is going to be good for all of us in the long run.
PLAY LIVE (MUSIC) WITH SOMEONE AGAIN
(also Play more guitar and Play guitar (nearly) every day) It’s no secret that I retired from being in bands several years ago. I do not miss being in a band. I do not, in general, miss playing live. I do not miss the constant, complex management of interpersonal relationships it takes to hold a band together.
I do, however, miss playing. I miss recording. I miss making music with friends.
In December, I committed to playing a show with one of my former bands some time in the first half of the year. I’ll post details when I have them. To make sure I don’t suck when that show comes around, I’ll be practicing and getting my chops back. In addition, I have a new guitar arriving the first of the year. It’s what people in the guitar world call a Partsocaster.
DRINK MORE WATER AND CONSUME LESS SUGAR
While I may have to soft-pedal Have cheese fondue more often and Eat waffles a bit, I think we can all agree that changing one’s diet is one of the resolutions people make the most often for the new year. It’s probably the one they fail on the most often, too. I am over 40 and overweight, so I know I need to pay closer attention to what I eat and how much (and how often) I exercise. I gave up soda on a lark in 2017 – I got tired of the constant caffeine headaches and sugar high-and-low cycles. I don’t drink coffee, but I usually have a cup of tea most days. I have been drinking more water, but I could always drink more.
CUT DOWN ON CLUTTER
This suggestion tied in nicely with Clean out & throw away one item a day. I’m not going to get into Swedish death cleaning or snuggle my stuff to see if it sparks joy, but decluttering a room is a great metaphor for life. We could all stand to declutter. I have too much stuff – physical stuff and metaphysical stuff. I need to engage in a thorough cleaning of my house, my space and my mind.
I’ve already started by clearing out thousands of old photos stored on my phone and organizing them so just the ones I want to see regularly are on there. The rest have been organized and move to a computer hard drive.
RUN TO THE HILLS
My friend who suggested this knows of my unwavering loyalty to the British metal band Iron Maiden, but I took his comment from a philosophical standpoint rather than a literal one. I need to Spend more time riding a motorcycle and Go somewhere I’ve never been. If I Have more adventures (see/do one new thing a month), I’ll easily be able to Run to the hills in 2018. I did zero travel in 2017 that wasn’t work-related, mostly because of my dire employment situation throughout the bulk of the year. It’s not that I didn’t have fun sometimes, but if I wasn’t going somewhere for work, I didn’t go. Period.
I already have a plan, something that was germinating in my mind. I’ve written it down, which lends things a more concrete aspect, and I’ll be working on a plan.
One of my friends suggested I Play more wargames – one of my hobbies that I’ve drifted away from in recent years for various reasons. He’s right, and I would very much like to liven that hobby back up a bit in the coming year.
THE THINGS I THOUGHT OF
I have to thank my Facebook friends for coming up with some great suggestions – even if I rejected some of them. Look at it this way, Paul – your suggestion I manufacture jenkem in my basement led me to learn something about the nature of hallucinogenic substances, the popularity of some of those things in other parts of the world, and how stories can explode on the internet despite little basis in truth. It was quite educational!
Before I asked for suggestions on Facebook, I already had three things that I wanted to work on in 2018.
I found myself using my phone more often than not in 2017, simply because I lost the desire to cart my big, heavy DSLR rig around. When I did lug it around – the work trip to Denver and Salt Lake City comes to mind – I hardly used it and subsequently resented the effort it took to haul it with me. Resentment led to less desire to use it, even though when I did use it, I still like it.
My friend & coworker Bill switched from Canon to Fujifilm a few years ago and has enjoyed his new cameras. He clued me in to a new camera Fujifilm was due to release in late 2017, the X-E3. I did some research and decided that could well be the camera for me, but when it came out, it cost over $1,000 to get the body and one of their kit lenses. After being savagely underemployed for most of 2017, I’m still a little gun shy when it comes to spending money, so I just couldn’t justify coming up off the money for the X-E3.
Instead, I did more research into Fujifilm’s X-series cameras and decided to pick up a used X100. It’s a fixed lens camera – meaning you can’t take the lens off and put another one on – and I got it for a couple hundred dollars. It’s not as powerful as my DSLR, but it’s just as flexible, and what’s more important is the thing weighs less than a pound. Early test photos are sharp and clean and I even pulled over while driving the other day to take pictures of something I saw on the side of the road. I haven’t done that in a long time.
I’m also planning to use up some of my remaining film stock in 2018, using my Fujifilm GW690. It’s looking like 2018 will be the year of the rangefinder, which I’m excited about.
That’s the GW690 on the left and the X100 on the right. The GW690 is a big camera, which makes the X100 look even smaller.
USING LOCAL BUSINESSES
Like many people, I may be addicted to the (nearly) instant gratification afforded to us by Amazon. In 2018, I plan to back off from that – part of my decluttering process – and try to use more local businesses for my everyday purchases. Fewer chain stores, fewer chain restaurants, fewer chain gas stations, that kind of thing. It’s important to me to support my community – one of the main reasons I wanted to leave Fairfax County for someplace less developed and with less population density was to live in a community I felt needed my support. I live in such a community now, and I want to become more ingrained into its small business economy.
My motorcycling skills are stagnating as I find myself riding for work more often than for fun. There’s nothing wrong with that, but much of my riding in 2017 was just to get someplace, rather than to enjoy being on a motorcycle. I found myself confused in a number of situations, unsure what to do, and I decided to do something about that in 2018.
My primary serious, concrete resolution for 2018 is to take four motorcycle training classes – two for road riding and two for off-road riding. I’m sure I’ll write about it, so you’ll know about it if I succeed or fail in this endeavor.
Well, that’s it for the 2018 resolution cycle. I’m going to try to be less of a dick, simplify my life in a lot of ways (including photography), hold down a full-time job for the whole year, bring & find joy, use local businesses, get some training, and in general take better care of myself. We’ll see how it goes – and thanks for coming along for the ride!
(Yes, mom, I will Call my mother and of course I will Tell my children I love them every day. Those things are easy!)